Sexual Assault Services of Northwest New Mexico
24/7 Hotline: 505-326-4700
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Education is the best way to provide communities with the tools to prevent and respond to sexual abuse. For inquiries or concerns about “Ask. Listen. Respect,” please contact:
Sexual Assault Services of
Northwest New Mexico’s
Prevention Education Coordinator
505-325-2805
Hotline Resources
Child (<18 years) Abuse and Neglect Reporting: New Mexico Statewide Central Intake
Every person who knows or has reasonable suspicion that a child (under the age of 18) is being abused or neglected in New Mexico must report the matter immediately to CYFD’s Statewide Central Intake child abuse hotline. Reports can be anonymous if preferred.
For life-threatening emergencies, call 911.
Call: 1-855-333-7233 [SAFE] or #SAFE from a cell phone
Text: ‘Reach NM’ to 505-591-9444
OR Call Law Enforcement (Non-Emergency Dispatch): 505-334-6622
Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline
The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline Crisis has counselors available 24/7 to answer questions, provide resources & support, and talk through difficult situations; they can also help research additional resources that may be available.
Call or Text: 1-800-422-4453
Chat online: https://www.childhelphotline.org
NOTE: If you need to report Abuse/Neglect, please reach out to New Mexico Statewide Central Intake ( 1-855-333-7233). For life-threatening emergencies, call 911.
CyberTip - NCMEC
The CyberTipline is the place to report child sexual exploitation. Making a report is secure and easy. The form can be completed in just a few minutes, and you decide if you want to share your contact information. In fact, many of the fields are optional so what information you provide, is up to you
Report online: https://report.cybertip.org/
Take It Down - NCMEC
This service is one step you can take to help remove online nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit photos and videos taken before you were 18.
Get started here: https://takeitdown.ncmec.org/
Dating Abuse Helpline (Love is Respect)
Offers confidential support for teens, young adults, and their loved ones seeking help, resources, or information. For life-threatening emergencies, call 911.
Call: 1-866-331-9474 or Text: “LOVEIS” to 22522 or Chat Online: https://www.loveisrespect.org
Domestic Violence: Family Crisis Center (Farmington)
Domestic Violence Shelter and Center serving San Juan County.
For life-threatening emergencies, call 911.
Call: 505-564-9192 or Toll Free: 1-888-440-9192
Domestic Violence: The Hotline
Provides compassionate support, crisis intervention information, education, and referral services.
Call: 1- 800-799-7233 (SAFE) or Text: “START” to 88788 or Chat: https://www.thehotline.org
Human Trafficking Resource Center
If you or someone you know is a victim of human trafficking, call the National Human Trafficking Hotline. Anti-Trafficking Hotline Advocates are available 24/7 to take reports of potential human trafficking.
Call: 1-888-373-7888 (TTY: 711) or Chat Online: www.humantraffickinghotline.org
LGBTQ+ Resource (Trevor Project)
Provides crisis support services to LGBTQ+ people. For life-threatening emergencies, call 911.
Call: 1-866-488-7386 or Text: “START” to 678-678 or Chat Online: https://www.thetrevorproject.org
Mental Health (Crisis): New Mexico Crisis and Access Line
Call to connect with a counselor if you or a loved one is experiencing any kind of emotional crisis, mental health or substance use concern. For life-threatening emergencies, call 911.
Call: 988 or 1-855-662-7474 (NMCRISIS) | TTY: 1-855-227-5485; Dial 711 for relay
Mental Health (Non-Crisis): New Mexico Peer-to-Peer Warmline
Peer Support Workers (people with lived experience) provide non-crisis support to New Mexicans who are just wanting someone to talk to about emotional, mental health, or substance use concerns. Available 7am – 11:30pm.
Call or Text: 1-855-466-7100; Dial 711 for relay (hearing & speech impaired)
Native American Helpline (StrongHearts)
A safe and confidential domestic violence and dating violence helpline for Native Americans and Alaska Natives, offering culturally-appropriate support and advocacy.
Call: 1-844-762-8483 (NATIVE) or Chat Online: https://strongheartshelpline.org
Runaway Safeline
Connects youth who have run away or who are experiencing homelessness with a trusted, compassionate person who will listen and help you create a plan to address your concerns, and connect you with resources and needed.
Call: 1-800-786-2929 or Chat Online: https://www.1800runaway.org/youth-teens/get-help
Sexual Assault Services of Northwest New Mexico (Farmington)
Rape Crisis Center serving San Juan, McKinley, and Rio Arriba Counties and surrounding areas by providing confidential support and resources to sexual assault victims/survivors and their loved ones. Advocates are available 24/7, every day of the year.
Call: 505-326-4700 or 1-866-908-4700
Sexual Assault: RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)
National sexual assault hotline providing confidential support to sexual assault survivors and their loved ones.
Call: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) or Chat Online: https://hotline.rainn.org/online
Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Provides support for people in distress as well as prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones.
Call: 988 or 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) or Chat Online: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/
Community Resources
These are resources in San Juan County to help you take care of your health and well-being.
Hospital (Farmington)
San Juan Regional Medical Center (SJRMC)
Phone: 505-609-2000
Address: 801 W. Maple St. Farmington, NM 87401
Hospital (IHS - Shiprock)
Northern Navajo Medical Center (NNMC)
Phone: 505-368-6001 Call for Walk-in Hours & Appointments
Address: Located on North US-491, Shiprock, NM 87420
Clinic (Farmington)
San Juan County Public Health Office (SJCPH)
Phone: 505-327-4461 Appointments Required
Address: 355 S. Miller Farmington, NM 87401
Clinic (Bloomfield)
Bloomfield Public Health Department (BPHD)
Phone: 505-634-0229 Appointments Required
Address: 903 W. Broadway Bloomfield, NM 87413
Clinic (Farmington)
Presbyterian Medical Services (PMS)
Phone: 505-327-4796 Call for Walk-in Hours & Appointments
Address: 1001 W. Broadway, Suite E & D Farmington, NM 87401
Clinic (Farmington)
Planned Parenthood (PPRM)
Phone: 505-327-0451 Appointments Required
Address: 1308 E. 20th St. Farmington, NM 87401
Clinic (IHS - Bloomfield)
Dzilth-NA-O-Dith-Hle Health Center (DZ)
Phone: 505-960-7802 Call for Walk-in Hours & Appointments
Address: 6 Rd 7586, Bloomfield, NM 87413
Pregnancy Resource Center (Farmington)
Grace Place
Phone: 505-327-4747 | 24-Hour Helpline: 505-609-4966
Address: 4801 N. Butler Ave, Suite 3000, Farmington, NM 87401
Pregnancy Resource Center (Farmington)
Birthright
Phone: 1-800-550-4900
Address: 609 N. Butler Ave, Farmington, NM 87401
Domestic Violence (Farmington)
Family Crisis Center (FCC)
Phone: 505-325-3549 | 24 hr. Crisis Hotline: 505-564-9192
Address: 208 E. Apache St. Farmington, NM 87401
Sexual Assault (Farmington)
Sexual Assault Services of Northwest New Mexico (SAS)
Phone: 505-325-2805 | 24-Hour Crisis Hotline: 505-326-4700
Address: 622 W. Maple St. Suite F, Farmington, NM 87401
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Melanie LaChappelle (she/her)
Prevention Education Coordinator
Office: 505-325-2805
24/7 Crisis Hotline: 505-326-4700
Sexual Assault Services of Northwest New Mexico: 505-326-4700
What is Consent?
For example, “Do you want to mess around for a while? Like cuddling and making out, but not having sex?”
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Why Consent Matters
Talking about what your partner wants to do ensures sexual activity is consensual and makes it more enjoyable.
You’ll feel more confident about what you’re doing, and your partner will feel comfortable getting close to you.
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
When and How to Ask for Consent
For example, “Can I kiss you?”
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
What is NOT Consent?
In these cases, you don’t have clear consent. Check in with your partner about how they’re feeling, or suggest another activity.
For example, “You seem unsure, so why don’t we just watch TV tonight?”
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Any sexual contact without consent is sexual assault
Helpful Tips with Consent
Non-Verbal Cues
For example, “You don’t seem too into this. Do you want to stop or take a break?”
Dealing with the "No"
For example, “That’s okay; maybe we could do that some other time.”
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Asking for Digital Consent
Consent should be a part of your interactions with others when you're texting or using social media. Although you aren't talking face-to-face, you should always consider how your actions might make another person feel and ask questions if you don't know.
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Consent & Texting
For example, “How do you feel about texting at work? I’m cool with it, but I also have a lot of down time.”
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Consent & Sharing Online
For example, “I love this picture from our last date. Is it OK if I post it to Instagram?”
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Consent & Sexting
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Picture Pressure
For example, if someone declines to sending a photo, an appropriate response could be, “That’s cool. I can’t wait for our date on Saturday!”
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Consent Violations
Adapted from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Sexual Assault Services of Northwest New Mexico: 505-326-4700
Healthy & Unhealthy Relationships
All relationships (including friendships and romantic interests) exist on a spectrum from healthy to abusive, with unhealthy relationships somewhere in the middle.
A healthy relationship does not mean a “perfect” relationship, and no one is healthy 100% of the time. While everyone does unhealthy things sometimes, we can all learn to love better by recognizing unhealthy signs and shifting to healthy behaviors.
Adapted from LoveIsRespect and OneLove
Healthy
A healthy relationship means both you and your partner are:
Unhealthy
You may be in an unhealthy relationship if your partner is:
Abusive
Abuse is occurring in a relationship when a partner is:
Healthy Relationships are based on Equality & Respect
In a healthy relationship, you make decisions together and can openly discuss whatever you’re dealing with, like relationship problems and sexual choices. You enjoy spending time together but can be happy apart.
Adapted from LoveIsRespect
Healthy relationships bring out the best in you and make you feel good about yourself.
Healthy relationships manifest themselves as healthy communication.
Another important part of a healthy relationship is loving yourself.
Adapted from LoveIsRespect and OneLove
Comfortable Pace
Trust
Honesty
Independence
Respect
Equality
Kindness
Taking Responsibility
Healthy Conflict
Fun
Unhealthy relationships are based on attempts to control the other person.
One person tries to make most of the decisions. They may pressure their partner about sex or refuse to see how their actions cause harm. In an unhealthy relationship, you feel like you should only spend time with your partner.
Adapted from LoveIsRespect and OneLove
Intensity
Possessiveness
Manipulation
Isolation
Sabotage
Belittling
Guilting
Volatility
Deflecting Responsibility
Betrayal
Abusive relationships are based on an imbalance of power & control.
One person is making all the decisions— about sexual choices, friend groups, boundaries, even what’s true and what’s not (i.e. gaslighting). You spend all of your time together and feel like you can’t talk to other people, especially about what’s really happening in your relationship.
If you don’t feel safe—or if you begin to notice any of the warning signs of abuse—it’s important you take the necessary steps to ensure your ongoing safety.
Adapted from LoveIsRespect
Love Bombing
Physical Abuse
Emotional Abuse
Verbal Abuse
Sexual Abuse
Financial Abuse
Digital Abuse
Cultural Abuse
Spiritual Abuse
Stalking
Power & Control:
Teen Relationships
Abuse usually isn’t isolated — it forms a pattern of behaviors that collectively make the victim question their own self-worth and become further entrenched in the abusive relationship.
Think of the wheel as a diagram of tactics that an abusive partner uses to keep their victims in a relationship.
The inside of the wheel is made up of subtle, continual behaviors over time, while the outer ring represents physical and sexual violence.
Adapted from LoveIsRespect
Power & Control:
LGBTQ+ Relationships
Abuse among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer or questioning (LGBTQ+) youth occurs at the same rates and in similar ways as heterosexual youth. One in three young people — gay, straight, and everyone in between — experiences some form of dating abuse.
Still, LGBTQ+ teens and young adults may face abuse and barriers to accessing support based on specific prejudices against their gender expression or sexuality.
Adapted from LoveIsRespect
If you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship, there are resources available to help.
Click on the buttons below to learn more.
Advocates are available 24/7 via phone, text, and online chat.
FOR LIFE-THREATENING EMERGENCIES, CALL 911
Sexual Grooming Behaviors
Grooming is the process during which an abuser gains a victim's trust in order to sexually abuse them and maintain control and secrecy. The abuser may also groom the victim's friends and family by persuading them of their trustworthiness.
TARGETING
The abuser chooses a victim.
GAINING TRUST
Gaining trust enables the abuser to introduce secrecy. Abuse continues in silence.
FILLING A NEED
Filling a need, such as providing emotional support, allows the abuser to bond with the victim.
ISOLATION
Isolating the victim from friends and loved ones allows the abuser to control the victim.
DESENSITIZE
The abuser gradually introduces and escalates activities (touching, kissing, hugging, showing sexually explicit content, etc.) to desensitize the victim.
CONTROL
The abuser controls the victim to ensure continuation of the abuse.
gROOMING rED fLAGS
Below are red flags for Teens to remember regarding adults, people in authority, and friends or acquaintances.
How to Report
Sexual Abuse
Anyone adult knows or has reasonable suspicion that a person under the age of 18 is being abused or neglected in New Mexico must report the matter immediately to CYFD’s Statewide Central Intake (SCI).
If someone discloses abuse to you:
Believe them. Tell them that it's not their fault. Let them know that they did the right thing by telling you. Report the abuse to the appropriate authorities.
Ways to Report:
Tell a Trusted Adult
Such as a the non-abusing parent, a teacher, an adult relative, clergy, or school administrator. As mandated reporters, they are required to report the suspected abuse or neglect to SCI.
Do not confront or alert the abuser
call SCI: 1-855-333-7233
or #SAFE [7233] from a cellphone
or text "Reach NM" at 505-591-9444
Reporting can be anonymous, but providing your information can help with the investigation.
Call LAW ENFORCEMENT
505-334-6622
is the phone number for
San Juan County Non-Emergency Dispatch.
They can then connect you with the
appropriate law enforcement agency,
who will then connect with CYFD.
Indicators of Human Trafficking
Recognizing key indicators of human trafficking is the first step in identifying victims and can help save a life. Here are some common indicators to help recognize human trafficking.
To get help from the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888
or text HELP or INFO to BeFree (233733)
For New Mexico minors suspected of being sex trafficked, call SCI: 1-855-333-7233
Active Upstander Tips
NOTICE
Notice the situation.
Be aware of your surroundings.
INTERPRET
Interpret what you're seeing as a problem. Ask yourself, "Do I recognize that someone needs help?"
FEEL RESPONSIBLE
Feel responsible to act. See yourself as being part of the solution to help.
KNOW
Know what to do. Educate yourself on what to do. If you're not sure, find someone who can help you.
Intervene Safely
Take action and be sure to keep yourself safe.
Tell another person
Ask the person you are worried about if they are OK
Distract or redirect individuals in unsafe situations
Ask the person if they want to leave
Call the police (911)
Or someone else in authority
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Why wouldn’t someone ask for consent?
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Why is asking for consent important?
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How do stereotypes affect people?
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What does a healthy relationship look like?
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What does an abusive relationship look like?
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What is grooming?
Series of manipulative behaviors abuser uses to:
Can take place in-person and/or online
93% of the time, the victim knows who the abuser is
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What were 3 things you learned this week that were the most helpful to you?
This is an open-ended question, but to help get you started, here's a recap of the topics discussed in class this week:
Body Language
Consent
Stereotypes
Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships
Abusive Relationships
Sexual Abuse & Grooming
Human Trafficking & Online Abuse
Bystander Intervention - Reporting Abuse:
Resource Review: